Why is your partner uninterested in everything? Should you dump them or wait it out? Therapist answers

Have you got a partner who never wants to try anything fun and exciting on the weekends, prefers the couch to going out, or shuts down every fresh idea you suggest? Relationships can be challenging, but with a a person like this, it may feel like swimming against the stream.

Indianexpress.com spoke to Priyamvada Tendulkar, a counselling psychologist, to understand how to tackle such a relationship. Tendulkar said that if your partner is otherwise uninterested in everything, there may be three underlying reasons:

Your partner may be an introvert

“Introverts are shy and uncomfortable in social settings, often feeling drained by social interactions. However, they aren’t boring; their one-on-one conversations are usually deep and interesting, as they like to skip the small talk,” Tendulkar said.

She noted that introverts can be frustrated by the loud and boisterous personality of extroverts. If you are an extrovert, this incompatibility may cause issues in the relationship. “If your partner is an introvert, both of you need to decide whether to work through this and find a balance or call it quits.”

Changing oneself for the other isn’t healthy, but if the relationship is worth fighting for, finding a middle ground can help.

Instead of playing the blame game, she suggested providing your partner with incentives to get better by expressing your needs in the relationship. (Source: Freepik)

Your partner may be depressed

“Depression hollows out a person’s motivation to exist. If your partner is experiencing temporary situational depression, you can show supportive patience. In cases of long-term clinical depression, often caused by trauma and abuse, your role is to gently suggest professional help. It is up to them to decide whether to accept it,” said Tendulkar.

Instead of playing the blame game, she suggested providing them with incentives to get better by expressing your needs in the relationship.

Your partner may have an avoidant personality type

According to Tendulkar, unsociable or avoidant individuals are averse to shared intimate experiences and difficult to connect with. Human emotions and feelings elude them, and even if interested in novel activities, they do not like sharing them with their partners.

“If your partner falls into this category, know that they dislike change and are addicted to comfort. They have a disturbingly low discomfort tolerance and do not like experimenting beyond their narrow definition of what’s fun and easy,” she said.

These tendencies often result from parenting styles that prioritised comfort, preventing them from outgrowing that mindset. Avoidant individuals struggle in relationships with novelty-seekers who enjoy adventures and new experiences, said Tendulkar.

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