Rejected, again? Here’s how to bounce back stronger (and land your dream job)

Facing multiple rejections when hunting for a job can be tough. It is during such difficult periods that you need to remind yourself that you’re not alone. Even the most successful people had to deal with rejection at some point in their lives.

A Google software engineer, Qingyue (Annie) Wang, who got turned down five times before landing her dream job, recently posted about her experience as an applicant that went viral. 

She wrote, “I failed to get into Google 5 times.” 

Over the years, Wang made several attempts to join the company but failed. Finally, in 2022, after her fifth attempt, she secured her current role and reflected on the key to her success — persistence. She reminded her followers about the importance of remaining disciplined and not giving up.

“First things first, don’t take it (rejection) personally. It’s easy to feel like it’s about you, but often, it’s just not the right fit or timing. Keep your chin up and remember that rejection doesn’t define your worth. Instead, see it as an opportunity to learn and grow,” she advised. 

Strategies or mindset shifts applicants adopt to maintain resilience after facing multiple job rejections

Organisational psychologist and HR consultant at That Culture Thing, Gurleen Baruah, says, “To navigate the challenge of repeated job rejections, firstly recognise rejection is just redirection — a closed door doesn’t define your path indefinitely.”

She suggests the following key approaches to bolster resilience:

Seek constructive feedback

Actively seek feedback from employers who have turned down your application. Approach this feedback with an open mind, identifying areas for improvement and committing to personal development. Return better prepared, incorporating the insights gained.

Separate skills from identity

It’s important to remember that your worth is not defined by the outcome of job applications. Rejection does not equate to personal failure. Recognise that it often reflects a mismatch between your skills and the employer’s needs at a particular moment, rather than a fundamental flaw in yourself.

Organisational psychologist and HR consultant at That Culture Thing, Gurleen Baruah says, “ Persistent individuals embrace failure as an integral part of the learning process.” (Source: Freepik)

Leverage your network

Connect with peers who have experienced rejection. Sharing experiences and offering support can provide solace and remind you that setbacks are a natural part of life. Knowing you’re not alone can boost morale and resilience.

Persevere and try again

Don’t succumb to self-pity or give up after setbacks. Continuously refine your skills and knowledge based on feedback, then reapply with confidence. View each rejection as a learning opportunity that contributes to your growth.

Prioritise self-care

Amidst the stress of job hunting, prioritise your physical and mental well-being. Incorporate exercise and mindfulness practices into your routine to alleviate stress and maintain resilience.

Focus on controllable factors

Understand that not everything is within your control, despite your best efforts. Focus on aspects you can influence, such as preparation and attitude, and let go of outcomes beyond your control. Direct your energy towards actionable steps, accepting outcomes beyond your control with equanimity.

What role does persistence play in eventually securing a dream job?

According to Malika Chandra, psychotherapist at MC Psychotherapy explains that persistence is a mindset that allows you to show yourself, in your actions, that you are deserving of the position you want. 

“These psychological signals to yourself can be a buffer to the unpleasant emotions that come with rejection. After multiple rejections, one is susceptible to lowering their self esteem in the context of their professional life,” she says.

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