Tamannaah Bhatia warns how ‘small lies’ in early days of relationship can signal deeper issues

When navigating the complexities of relationships, early warning signs can often be crucial in determining the potential for a healthy and lasting connection.

In a recent episode of Figuring Out with Raj Shamani podcast, actor Tamannaah Bhatia shared her perspective on this topic. When talking about red flags to watch out for when dating someone new, she said, “One of the red flags is liars. People who lie for small things. Like say this pen is something that you bought but it is gifted to you. The funny part is they lie for small things, not even a big thing… Then they will lie for everything.”

She highlighted that seemingly minor dishonesty can be a significant red flag. Her insights underscore the importance of trusting one’s instincts and paying attention to initial interactions.

Understanding how these early signs manifest and how they should be interpreted can be key to fostering healthier relationships. Sonal Khangarot, licensed rehabilitation counsellor and psychotherapist, The Answer Room, tells indianexpress.com, “Going back to when Shah Rukh Khan said ‘pyaar dosti hai’ (love is friendship) — as a psychologist when I decipher these words I feel he is trying to say that our partner is someone with whom we can be our true authentic self.”

She adds, “At the start of a relationship we are often blinded by the heightened euphoria, racing hearts and longing of building a forever home and overlook a few warning signs that come our way.”

Attachment is driven by personal needs, while love involves mutual respect (Source: Freepik)

What are these early warning signs?

According to Khangarot, these are the warning signs you should look out for during the initial stages of dating:

Confusing Attachment for Love: Attachment is driven by personal needs, while love involves mutual respect, intimacy, and commitment. It is important to be self-aware when you meet someone new.

Controlling Behaviour: Genuine care isn’t controlling who your partner talks to or how they dress. Over-controlling behaviours signal emotional abuse and will likely stay the same until your partner takes active steps to fix their issues.

Quick Involvement: Emotional and physical intimacy should develop at a pace that aligns with both partners’ comfort levels. A partner should not force the other against their will to take the relationship to the next level.

Aggression and Isolation: Early signs of aggression or attempts to isolate you from loved ones are red flags.

Inconsistent Behaviour: ‘Hot and cold’ behaviour or ghosting are signs of potential issues and you should pause and reflect on what your next steps are going to be.

Love Bombing: Excessive attention or flattery in the early stages of a relationship may be a tactic to gain control.

Why small lies may be indicative of larger issues within a relationship

According to Khangarot, humans seek “long-term, consistent connections, especially when building a future with someone.” If you want to create a stable, trustworthy relationship, it’s crucial to address any small lies early on. Small lies can erode trust and lead to bigger issues over time, potentially jeopardising the relationship. Addressing these concerns promptly helps maintain trust and prevent future problems.

How can individuals better trust their instincts when they sense something might be off?

The first thing you should do, Khangarot says, is write down your thoughts. “Imagine a friend or close relative experiencing what you are going through. How would you advise them? This exercise helps you step back and view the situation from a more objective, third-person perspective.”

She adds, “An ideal first date should feel comfortable and natural, without extreme highs or lows. Real-life relationships aren’t like movies; they develop gradually through trust and mutual understanding”

Your body often senses discomfort before your mind does, she says. “If you feel anxious, restless, drained, or uneasy after spending time with someone, it’s important to acknowledge these feelings and reflect on them. Trust how your body reacts — feeling safe and at ease with someone is a crucial indicator of a healthy connection.”

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