Karan Singh Grover says daughter’s open heart surgery was ‘difficult for us’; Tips and insights for parents dealing with a child’s recovery

Actor Karan Singh Grover recently opened up about his daughter’s heart surgery, sharing the emotional struggles he and his wife, Bipasha Basu, faced during the difficult time. 

The couple welcomed Devi in 2022 but soon discovered that she had two holes in her heart. As a result, she underwent open heart surgery at just three months old. 

Grover told Dainik Bhaskar, “Something or the other keeps happening. I am very lucky that nothing very bad happened in my life. But there was a time when we faced a very big problem with our daughter. That time was very difficult for us. My daughter had a serious health problem, and what she suffered during that time is hard to describe in words.”

He continued, “My daughter is a true fighter. She has a long scar on her chest that goes to her stomach. Whatever we think and achieve in our lives is nothing compared to her. Whatever she and her mother (Bipasha Basu) have gone through, it cannot be compared. Nothing like this has happened in my life, I am very lucky.”

Caring for a child post-surgery requires not only vigilance with physical healing but also attending to their mental and emotional well-being. Parents must juggle concerns about their child’s long-term health, manage stress, and ensure that the child feels safe and supported throughout their recovery journey. 

So, how can families navigate this difficult period with confidence and care?

Dr Arun Kumar, senior consultant psychiatrist at Cadabams Mind Talk, says, “The immediate days following heart surgery are critical for your child’s recovery. Administer prescribed medications diligently, ensuring correct dosages and timings. These medications could include pain relievers, antibiotics, and medications to support heart function. If you have any concerns or questions about the medication, don’t hesitate to reach out to your child’s doctor or pharmacist.”

He adds, “Keep the surgical incision clean and dry as per the medical team’s instructions. Be on the lookout for any signs of infection, such as redness, swelling, warmth, or discharge.”

Your child’s activity level will likely be restricted initially, he says. Follow the medical team’s recommendations regarding physical activity, lifting restrictions, and rest periods. A healthy diet plays a vital role in healing and recovery.  Encourage your child to eat nutritious foods and ensure they stay well-hydrated. If your child is struggling with their appetite, consult a dietician for personalised guidance.

The immediate days following heart surgery are critical for your child’s recovery. (Source: Freepik)

Parental well-being: Navigating stress and emotions

Dr Kumar admits that it’s natural to experience a range of emotions, from anxiety and fear to sadness and exhaustion. “Don’t bottle up your feelings; talk to your partner, friends, family, or a therapist.”

Make sure you’re getting enough rest, eating nutritious meals, and engaging in activities you enjoy. Taking breaks is not selfish; it’s necessary to recharge and be able to care for your child effectively.

Joining a support group or connecting with other parents who have gone through similar experiences can provide a sense of community and understanding, suggests Dr Kumar. Sharing your challenges and triumphs can be incredibly cathartic and empowering.

He states, “If you’re struggling with anxiety, depression, or other mental health challenges, don’t hesitate to seek professional help. A therapist can provide guidance and support in managing stress and coping with difficult emotions.”

Supporting your child through the healing process

Emotional recovery is as important as physical healing. Children who have undergone major heart surgery may experience a range of emotions, from fear and anxiety to sadness and anger. Here are some strategies to help them as recommended by Dr Kumar:

Open Communication: Encourage your child to express their feelings openly and honestly. Create a safe space where they feel comfortable sharing their fears and concerns.

Normalise Emotions: Let your child know that it’s normal to feel scared, angry, or sad after surgery. Validate their emotions and reassure them that you’re there to support them.

Body Image and Scars: If your child is struggling with visible scars or changes in their body image, offer reassurance and support. Talk to them about their feelings and consider seeking professional help if needed.

Play and Creativity: Engage your child in play and creative activities that allow them to express their emotions and process their experiences.

Reestablish Routine: As your child recovers, gradually reintroduce familiar routines and activities to provide a sense of normalcy and stability.

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